I get a number of calls from people of different backgrounds and my very dear students asking me as to why they are suffering the way they are. Well for most problems there is just one simple solution. Whatever that is one wants - give it away freely first and one receives what one desires.
If one wants more money, first learn to give it away freely. All religions suggest giving away 10% as alms, do it and see the result. The standard answer is “I don’t have enough money to give away”. Well the point is to give or share 10% of whatever one has. So if you have Rs.100 the idea is to share Rs.10. It’s not about how much you can give but about the willingness and the attitude with which one shares. It does not have to be in cash, it can also be in kind.
The same applies for anything one wants in life.
If one wants to do higher studies, help someone get educated. One can take tuitions if one needs financial help or just help classmates study or teach someone at a lower grade.
If one wants a job help others in getting a job in the process one improves one’s brand image too.
If you want a better life help others have a better life …The rule is so simple and most don’t get it.
& most importantly if you want Love, first love others willingly, happily with compassion. This allows you to like and love yourself too. It’s not necessary that it be only humans- share love with plants and pets …one has to start somewhere, take those baby steps.
Most families are dysfunctional in some way or the other, if there is a lot of anger, resentment, jealousy under the roof you live in …it’s time to clear up your internal garbage and ask yourself “How am I contributing to the situation here?”
Young boys and girls want to stay away from home as they believe that will give them reprieve but alas bad relationships chase you for a lifetime (if not lifetimes). One has to work on relationships consciously, deliberately and continuously for a happier life.
